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In episode 550 of ADHD reWired, Eric Tivers sits down with Dr. Shannan Palma to explore Decide—a suite of AI-powered decision- tools built by and for neurodivergent brains. Throughout this conversation, you’ll hear about: How Decide leverages AI (Gemini and large language models) to help with everyday choices and multi-step tasks. The story behind IT Assistive Technologies and the Autistic Self-Reliance Network. Real-world examples of “decision fatigue” and how Decide’s guided and randomized features ease choice paralysis. The balance between AI assistance and human insight—and why a trusting, well-prompted tool can feel like a personal neurodivergent life coach. Pricing, privacy, and the community-focused mission: 85 percent of ITI’s profits fund disability-led initiatives. Bonus segments on Pride Month, coaching groups, virtual coworking, and how to get involved with ADHD reWired’s summer programs. Use these show notes to get a quick overview, find useful links, and discover why Decide might become your new go-to when you’re stuck choosing dinner, figuring out a daily routine, or simply need a gentle “nudge” to move forward. Episode Summary Dr. Shannan Palma—co-founder of Decide and co-director of the Autistic Self-Reliance Network—s Eric to unpack how tools designed by autistic and ADHD adults can transform decision making for all of us. Shannan shares her own late autism and ADHD diagnoses, the challenges she faced finding resources after getting “the piece of paper,” and how a 48-hour hackathon sparked a project that won first prize and secured nearly $400 k in grant funding. From door-dash dilemmas to life-altering choices (like whether to adopt a foster dog), Decide offers two core modes: Randomized Choice Generator s create custom lists (e.g., favorite restaurants, daily routines) and assign energy costs. The app selects an option based on your current energy level—no more breakfast indecision or “what to watch next” paralysis. Guided Decision Assistance A series of friendly, “affirmative” prompts mirror a real-time coach. By reflecting back your own criteria (energy, resources, priorities), Decide delivers a percentage-confidence recommendation and rationale—so you can make a defensible, informed choice without overthinking. Along the way, Shannan emphasizes the importance of privacy (your data always belongs to you), ethical AI (focusing on “do no harm”), and how Decide’s freemium model avoids the “ADHD tax” by offering 10 free guided decisions per month. access is available for $4.99/month, but you can cancel at any time without losing progress. Key Takeaways Why “Decision Fatigue” Matters: Neurodivergent brains often struggle with countless small choices (e.g., “What’s for dinner?”). Decide’s randomized generator isn’t just for fun—it reduces executive-function load by factoring in your energy level and pre-ranked options. Guided Mode = Personalized Neurodivergent Coaching: Instead of writing complex prompts for ChatGPT or Claude, Decide asks you targeted yes/no/unsure questions. Once you answer, it gives a clear recommendation (with a confidence score) plus a brief “why,” so you trust your decision-making process. Built by Autistic + ADHD Makers: After Shannan’s late autism diagnosis, she realized few s existed for lower-visibility autistic adults. A 48-hour hackathon (Give Back Hack Columbus) brought together autistic and ADHD engineers, designers, and researchers—leading to Decide’s prototype and subsequent $400 k grant from Ohio’s Department of Developmental Disabilities. Community-First Funding Model: 85 percent of any IT Assistive Technologies’ profits flow back to the Autistic Self-Reliance Network (ASR). ASR focuses on autonomy and resources for autistic adults—rather than caregiver research—aiming to expand capacity and economic inclusion across the lifespan. Privacy & Data Rights: Decide won’t train AI on your personal data, and you retain full ownership of anything you input. Future plans include an opt-in research repository for autistic/ADHD lifespan data—governed by community safeguards. Bonus: Pride Month & ADHD ReWired Community Updates: Neurodivergent Pride : Friday, June 13th at 10 AM PT / 1 PM ET (free registration at ). Summer Coaching Groups kick off July 24th—save $200 by ing the registration kickoff on June 18th (more info at ). Adult Study Hall: Virtual coworking with monthly “Pomodoro Dance Parties” (4th Friday, Pride-themed on June 27th). Try a 1-week free trial at . Next Live Q&A: Tuesday, June 10th at 10:30 AM PT / 1:30 PM ET (become a Patron at for behind-the-scenes coaching calls). Resources & Links Decide AI Decision Assistant • Web: • App Store (iOS) & Google Play (Android) • Guided decisions: 10 free/month; : $4.99/month (cancel anytime) Dr. Shannan Palma & IT Assistive Technologies • IT Assistive Technologies (for-profit): • Autistic Self-Reliance Network (non-profit): • LinkedIn: (mention you heard the podcast!) Neurodivergent Pride & June Events • Neurodivergent Pride (June 13): • Adult Study Hall Pomodoro Dance Party (June 27): ADHD ReWired Coaching & Community • Summer Coaching Groups (start July 24): • Live Q&A (June 10): RSVP details sent to interest list • Patreon: Books & References • Annie Duke, Thinking in Bets (on decision quality vs. outcome quality) • “Selling Out the Spectrum” by Ryan E. Conviction (autistic journalist on research ethics)

Summer coaching groups start on July 24th. LIstners can save $200 by g up at the registration kickoff event on June 18th. Learn more and get on the interest list at   Eric shares updates about prioritizing sustainable energy practices and coping with recent family challenges, including the ing of his grandmother and his father's health issues.  The main segment features Dr. Shannon Palma, founder and CEO of ITI Assistive Technologies, discussing her late autism and ADHD diagnoses. She shares insights into her decades-long journey with executive function challenges, her comprehensive self-diagnosis process, and the development of tools for neurodivergent adults. Shannon and Eric delve deeply into the nuances of autistic and ADHD burnout, the differences between autistic burnout and occupational burnout, and the challenges of masking and managing sensory sensitivities. The episode also reveals the host's own recent autism diagnosis, providing a reflective and personal perspective on understanding neurodivergence. The episode wraps up with information and a teaser for a follow-up episode focusing more on Shannon's work and the host's continued exploration of his diagnosis.      00:00 Introduction and Announcements 02:30 Eric’s Personal Updates and Challenges 05:12 Guest Introduction: Dr. Shannon Palma 06:32 Shannon's Diagnosis Journey 09:42 Sensory Sensitivities and Family Traits 16:56 Burnout and Neurodivergence ADS 26:56 and Community 28:36 Coaching Rewired This Summer 28:42 Introducing Adult Study Hall 30:54 Exploring Autism and ADHD 34:12 Self-Diagnosis and Professional Insights 35:29 Navigating Social Cues and Sensory Sensitivities 40:35 Understanding Neural Processing 46:56 Social Interactions and Coping Strategies 53:37 Wrapping Up and Information  

What happens when two ADHDers realize there's more to the story? In this deeply personal and exploratory episode, Eric is ed by his friend and fellow coach, Portia Jackson Preston, for an honest, vulnerable, and unmasked conversation about discovering—later in life—that they’re not just ADHD… they're also autistic. April is Autism Acceptance Month and there’s no better time to peel back the layers. Eric and Portia share their parallel journeys of exploring what it means to be AuDHD, how autism was hiding in plain sight for both of them, and how late diagnosis is reshaping their self-understanding, their relationships, their parenting, and their work. Together, they unpack: What unmasking looks like—and feels like—especially when it's not a conscious choice Why self-diagnosis is valid and often necessary How intersecting identities impact recognition and diagnosis The grief and growth that come with seeing your past through a new lens Why autistic burnout hit both of them so hard (and what they’re doing now to recover) And how this shift is impacting their businesses, boundaries, and sense of self You’ll also hear about how EMDR therapy played a pivotal role in both of their journeys, how the Johari Window concept reframed Eric’s understanding of his blind spots, and how reconnecting with their full, authentic selves has allowed for deeper joy—even in the weirdest places (like dancing at a Phish show with hand flaps in full glory). This is the kind of conversation that gives others permission to explore, to question, and to be. 👉 Related links & resources: Portia Jackson Preston on Instagram: 🎧 Takeaways: Unmasking isn’t a one-time event—it’s a process. Late diagnosis can be both a relief and a reckoning. Self-comion isn’t optional; it’s a survival tool. You don’t have to prove your neurodivergence to anyone. It’s okay to change. It’s okay to grieve. And it’s okay to rest.

🎙 Guest Info: Today's guest, Elise Fillmore, is a queer and neurodivergent financial educator, bestselling author, and the founder of  Elise focuses on identity-based finance, helping people navigate money through the lens of their lived experiences, challenges, and strengths. She’s also the author of Keeping Finance Personal and the host of the Dopamine Dollars podcast. 💡 Episode Highlights: How traditional financial advice often fails neurodivergent people Why financial planning should be tailored to your identity, lifestyle, and brain Strategies for making money management less overwhelming and more engaging The importance of automation and dopamine-driven finance systems Why shame and financial struggles are often systemic, not personal failings Common financial myths and why some mainstream advice (like Dave Ramsey’s) doesn’t work for ADHDers Practical ways to infuse joy into budgeting and create sustainable financial habits How to set up "fun money" s and make saving more rewarding Why financial tools and strategies “expire” for ADHDers – and what to do about it The role of external ability in managing money 📌 Resources & Links: Elise Fillmore's Website: Instagram: TikTok:   Book: Keeping Finance Personal – Available in hardcover, ebook, and audiobook   Podcast: Dopamine Dollars – Available on , , and more 🔗 Mentioned in This Episode: A list of dopamine-boosting activities to help manage impulsive spending 📢 ADHD reWired! Leave a rating & review on Apple Podcasts or wherever you listen Share this episode with someone who might find it helpful Become a to help us keep creating great content! 🚀 ADHD reWired’s Coaching & ability Groups! Our Spring 2025 Coaching Groups are coming up soon! April 24 - June 19 Registration Events: March 27 & April 2 Learn more & sign up: 🖥 Adult Study Hall - ADHD reWired's Virtual Co-working community.   New Zen Tangle and Journal with me sessions on Sundays at 8:30am PT / 11:30am ET 🎧 Don’t Miss the Next Episode! Subscribe & follow so you never miss an episode of ADHD reWired!  

In this episode of ADHD reWired, Eric Tivers welcomes Chris Hooten, a LinkedIn Top Facilitation Voice and certified neuro-mindfulness coach. With over 15 years of experience, Chris specializes in helping neurodiverse organizations foster inclusive communication, leadership, and workplace strategies. Eric begins the episode with a personal update, sharing his ongoing journey of overcoming burnout and a recent formal autism evaluation. He also highlights his interviews on Chasing Life with Dr. Sanjay Gupta and Entrepreneur on Fire, as well as the pressing need for advocacy in the face of recent policy changes that threaten diversity, equity, and inclusion (DEI) initiatives. The core discussion revolves around communication challenges in neurodivergent teams and how traditional workplace structures often fail to accommodate neurodiverse employees. Chris introduces the 4D Model of Neuroinclusive Communication—a framework designed to improve communication by making it more descriptive, deliberate, direct, and diverse. They discuss common workplace miscommunication issues, the pitfalls of platforms like Slack for neurodivergent individuals, and how managers can foster psychological safety. Chris also explores the systemic barriers that impact neurodivergent and marginalized individuals in professional spaces. They emphasize shifting away from medicalized, deficit-based narratives about neurodiversity and adopting an intersectional, affirming approach that values lived experiences. Eric and Chris conclude by reflecting on the evolving nature of work, the need for workplace wellness, and how neurodivergent individuals are often the first to recognize unsustainable work environments. Chris shares insights on fostering genuine inclusion rather than performative DEI efforts and provides strategies for improving workplace culture. 🔗 Find Chris Hooten: | LinkedIn | Instagram 💡 Resources & Announcements: Pre-registration is now open for the ADHD reWired Coaching & ability Groups. Secure your spot at . Spring Sessions April 24 - June 19th. Adult Study Hall for virtual co-working and Zentangle workshops at . the show on Patreon at . 🎧 Listen Now! Don’t forget to subscribe and leave a review on your favorite podcast app! Chris at  ADHD reWired's Coaching and ability Groups: Adult Study Hall: Eric on the Chasing Life Podcast -  Eric on Entrepuner on Fire 5 Calls      

In this episode of ADHD reWired, I’m pulling back the curtain on two intertwined journeys: my own path toward sustainability and the incredible growth story of Jessica, an alumna of our ADHD Coaching and ability Groups. As I’ve navigated my own challenges with burnout and the pressures of juggling too much, I’ve made a commitment this year to focus on what matters most. My word for the year—sustainability—has reshaped how I approach my work, my energy, and even this podcast. Jessica’s story adds another layer of depth to this episode. After feeling stuck, overwhelmed, and disconnected while pursuing her PhD, Jessica ed our fall coaching group. Through her deeply personal and reflective audio journal, she shares how the program helped her build sustainable systems, reconnect with her goals, and find the motivation to tackle her work and her life with renewed energy. From discovering the power of ability teams to replacing old habits with more ive ones, Jessica’s transformation offers hope and inspiration for anyone seeking to live more intentionally with ADHD. This season, we’ve made changes to our coaching program to better ADHDers like you. Now 8 weeks instead of 10, the program is more focused and accessible. We’ve also introduced on-demand access to our yearly planning sessions, allowing you to go at your own pace. These adjustments reflect the principle that less is truly more when it comes to creating meaningful and lasting growth. The final registration events for our Winter Coaching and ability Groups are Wednesday and Thursday of this week, so now is the time to take the next step. If you’re ready to stop juggling fireballs and start building a more sustainable, ADHD-friendly life, visit to pre- today. Tune in to hear Jessica’s story, learn more about what makes our coaching groups so transformative, and find inspiration to start your own growth journey. Together, let’s challenge internalized ableism and reimagine what it means to thrive with ADHD.

Eric Tivers continues to reflect on his journey of overcoming burnout and seeking solutions for long-term sustainable energy management. ADHD at 80 MPH is a nod to the last episode recorded in the car about 9 years ago. Episode 47 called . Recording from his car during a road trip, Eric shares his experiences of taking a solo retreat to recharge and refocus and to think about yearly planning. He discusses his efforts to rebalance his work and personal needs, and some insights he's recently gained. The episode also touches on his continued discovery of being autistic alongside having ADHD and how it's shaping his approach to life and business.  Eric also announces the opening of registration for winter coaching and ability groups, reflecting on the value of community and structured for ADHD individuals. The episode concludes with hearing from some recent coaching group alumi and with logistical details about coaching sessions and community events. 1:07 Winter Coaching and ability Groups 01:30 Road Trip Reflections 03:47 Burnout and Sustainability 15:45 Coaching Group Success Stories 22:02  Events and Announcements 25:36 Conclusion and Farewell Registration for our winter groups starts Jan. 3, 2025.  Winter sessions are January 30 - March 27. Add your name to our interest list at It's not to late to do your yearly planning with ADHD reWired in . Our 5-part yearly planning series is available on demand for Adult Study Hall . today. It's only $19.99 a month, or save with an annual hip for only $150 for the year.  You can also this work on *Note - There will be no Monthly Patreon Coaching Call, or Pomodoro Dance Party for Adult Study Hall in December. But we'll be back in January. 

And We're Back!!! In episode 543 of ADHD reWired, host Eric Tivers returns to mark a new beginning for the podcast. Eric focuses this episode on recognizing and overcoming burnout. After 10 years of weekly episodes, plus other stressors in business and life,  the pace became unsustainable, leading him to experience significant burnout. Eric elaborates on these elements of burnout, describing emotional exhaustion as a deep-seated fatigue that impacts life engagement, depersonalization as growing detachment and cynicism towards work, and diminished personal achievement as a sense of ineffectiveness despite efforts. He recounts personal struggles, including a divorce and other stressors that exacerbated his burnout. Eric discusses the importance of meaningful alone time to recharge, using his motorcycle trips as an example of finding mental clarity and rebalancing life. He also outlines changes in his coaching seasons to ensure sustainability. Additionally, Eric introduces a new offering for Adult Study Hall where he will be leading through a 5-week guided workshop for planning your year beginning November 20th, 2024.  Learn more at - Plus sign up with our new annual plan and get 37% off your hip. us for our Live Monthly Q &A every 2nd Tuesday of the Month at 10:30 AM PT / 1:30 PM PT. RSVP at ADHD reWired by becoming a Patron at   00:00 Welcome to ADHD reWired 01:19 Introduction to Season Two 02:40 Understanding Burnout 03:19 Emotional Exhaustion 04:48 Depersonalization and Cynicism 06:02 Reduced Personal Accomplishment 07:57 Diagnosing Burnout 09:47 Personal Journey and Realizations 13:03 Rebalancing Life and Work 14:25 Coaching Groups and Community Events 18:50 Yearly Planning Sessions 21:27 Conclusion and Future Plans    

Hey, it’s Eric Tivers, host of ADHD reWired. I know it’s been a minute since our last episode, but I’ve got something important for you—especially if you’ve been thinking about ing our This season, we’re doing something a little different: an 8-week sprint instead of the usual 10. That means you’ll finish by December 5th, right before the holiday craziness kicks in. And you’ll also get access to our alumni community’s deep dive into yearly planning, so you can head into 2025 with a clear plan and momentum on your side. Now, let’s talk about pricing because I want to make this as accessible as possible. If you sign up during early registration, you can break it up into affordable payments: With PayPal Credit, qualified U.S. applicants can take advantage of 6 months interest-free payments—meaning you can pay just $199 a month. That’s it for the entire group! Or, if you prefer to pay over 3 months, you can pay $399 a month with our payment plan. Payments are made via Zelle, with a backup card on file to keep it simple. And hey, if you miss the early registration deadline, you can still use PayPal Credit to pay over 6 months, and your monthly payment will only be $233. The early bird rate ends on Thursday, September 19th, so don’t wait! Our fall sessions begin October 10th, and the final registration event is on September 26th. Registration events are at 10 AM Pacific / 1 PM Eastern. Head over to coachingrewired.com, add your name to the interest list, and start the pre-registration process today. And if our registration times don’t fit your schedule, no worries—you can schedule a 1:1 registration call with me to lock in your spot. I can’t wait to see you in this next season! Thanks for listening, and stay tuned—more episodes coming your way soon.

In this episode of ADHD reWired, Eric Tivers is ed by Mattia Mauree, an award-winning composer, poet, and host of the AUDHD Flourishing Podcast. Mattia shares their insights into the unique challenges faced by neurodivergent individuals, particularly those with ADHD and autism, as they navigate trauma, self-expression, and what they describe as "attention tunnels." Mattia opens up about their personal journey, discussing the impact of complex PTSD, disordered eating, and their late diagnoses of ADHD and autism. They explain how monotropism—having a narrower field of focus—shapes their experience as a neurodivergent person. Through the lens of monotropism, Mattia explores how being stuck in an attention tunnel can make transitioning to different tasks or social situations feel overwhelming and distressing. Eric and Mattia dive deep into the intersections of trauma and neurodivergence, examining how neurodivergent brains may be more easily traumatized, especially in environments that fail to meet their unique needs. They discuss the profound impact of neurodivergent parents raising neurodivergent children and the challenges of navigating systems that don’t their differences. This conversation also highlights the importance of self-expression in healing and flourishing. Mattia explains how self-expression, rather than achievement, has become central to their definition of success, emphasizing the importance of creating work that resonates emotionally, even if it doesn't fit the traditional metrics of success. Other topics discussed include: The connection between hyperfocus and monotropism in ADHD and autism   How Mattia balances creativity, self-care, and flourishing as a neurodivergent individual   The complexity of navigating trauma in neurodivergent families   The importance of community and systems for neurodivergent creatives and entrepreneurs This episode is a must-listen for anyone interested in understanding the complex interplay of trauma, neurodivergence, and flourishing. Whether you identify as neurodivergent or are simply curious about these experiences, this conversation offers valuable insights into the importance of creating space for self-expression, healing, and growth. Connect with Mattia Mauree: Website:   Podcast: ADHD reWired on Patreon: If you’ve enjoyed this episode and want to the podcast, consider becoming a patron at . Your helps keep the podcast going and brings more episodes to listeners like you! ADHD reWired Coaching and ability Groups: Our coaching groups return this fall! Learn how to manage your ADHD more effectively in a ive, community-based program. Visit to get all the details.

In episode 541 host Eric Tivers speaks with licensed marriage and family therapist Alex Bache about digital addiction and its impact on ADHD, anxiety disorders, and OCD, particularly in adolescents and young adults. The discussion covers identifying behavioral addictions, the role of dopamine in addiction, and interventions like motivational interviewing and harm reduction. They also explore the balance between gaming for social connection and potential addiction, offering strategies for parents and individuals. Additionally, Eric updates listeners on his coaching groups and plans for the podcast.  Topics Include: Addressing Digital Addiction Meet Alex Bache: Expert on Digital Behavioral Addictions Understanding Behavioral Addiction Game Transfer Phenomena Explained Interventions for Digital Addiction The Role of Harm Reduction Digital Hygiene Practices The Power of ability and Connection Reflecting on Changes in ADHD Coaching Gaming and Social Connection Managing Screen Time Collaboratively Balancing Screen Time and Family Activities Recognizing Digital Addiction Conclusion and Information Connect with Alex at

Welcome back to another episode of ADHD reWired. Our guest today is Dr. Gilly Khan, Ph.D., a licensed psychologist who specializes in working with children, teens, and young adults dealing with anxiety, depression, and ADHD. In this episode, Dr. Khan shares her personal journey with ADHD, discusses the impact of hormonal fluctuations on ADHD symptoms, and offers practical advice on improving emotional regulation and social skills. Dr. Gilly Khan's Journey with ADHD Dr. Gilly Khan was diagnosed with ADHD at the age of 33, a revelation that came as no surprise to her. Like many women, she had suspected for years that she might have ADHD. Her journey towards diagnosis began when she noticed ADHD symptoms in her young daughter, leading her to seek a diagnosis for herself. Encouraged by a colleague who was open about her ADHD diagnosis, Dr. Khan decided to embrace her neurodiversity and advocate for herself and her clients. The Impact of Hormonal Fluctuations on ADHD One of the most significant insights Dr. Khan offers is the connection between hormones, particularly estrogen, and ADHD symptoms. She explains that hormonal fluctuations can significantly impact mood, memory, and overall ADHD symptoms. This is crucial for women, especially during periods of hormonal change such as menstruation, pregnancy, and menopause. Dr. Khan shares her personal experience with migraines, which she began having in college, and later discovered were linked to estrogen levels. Her experience highlights the importance of considering hormonal influences when diagnosing and treating ADHD in women. Practical Advice for Emotional Regulation Dr. Khan emphasizes that medication can significantly help reduce ADHD symptoms, including emotional dysregulation. However, she also discusses the importance of practical strategies to manage emotions. One key approach is to take a time-out when feeling overwhelmed and practice coping skills like deep breathing in a calm environment before re-engaging with the situation. Dr. Khan's recommendation to include parents in the process is particularly insightful. Coaching parents to help their children recognize emotional dysregulation and use coping strategies can make a significant difference. Social Skills in ADHD Addressing social skills, Dr. Khan discusses the effectiveness of social skills groups, especially when tailored to the needs of neurodivergent individuals. She notes the importance of applied practice and the role of parents in coaching their children outside of therapy sessions. For adults with ADHD, Dr. Khan suggests finding activities and clubs that align with their interests to facilitate meeting like-minded individuals. She also highlights the importance of planning social interactions, just like planning professional activities, to maintain relationships. Overcoming Social Challenges Both Eric and Dr. Khan share personal anecdotes about the challenges of ing names and maintaining social connections. Practical tips such as using a planner to schedule social activities and taking photos to names illustrate how even small strategies can make a big difference. Advocacy and Self-Education Dr. Khan stresses the importance of self-advocacy and educating oneself about ADHD. She advises seeking out credible resources and being prepared to discuss specific symptoms and experiences with healthcare providers. Her message is clear: understanding and advocating for one’s own neurodiversity is crucial for effective treatment and self-acceptance. Conclusion Dr. Gilly Khan’s insights provide a deeper understanding of the complexities of ADHD, particularly in women. From the impact of hormonal fluctuations to practical strategies for emotional regulation and social skills, her expertise offers valuable guidance for both individuals with ADHD and those ing them. To learn more about Dr. Gilly Khan, her work, and her book on emotional dysregulation, visit her website at drgillykhan.com and follow her on Instagram at @drgillykhan. Thank you for tuning into ADHD reWired. If you found this episode helpful, consider ing the podcast on Patreon, and don't forget to subscribe so you never miss an episode. Together, we can continue to learn, grow, and one another in our ADHD journeys. *Shownotes generated by Ai

In episode 539 of ADHD reWired, host Eric Tivers welcomes neurodivergent coach Vida Carey, who specializes in sex and relationships. Together, they dive into conversations about sexuality, intimacy, and the unique challenges faced by neurodivergent individuals in these areas. Vida shares her experiences and provides insights on discussing sex openly, defining kink, exploring different relationship structures, and addressing sexual desires in a shameless and authentic manner. The episode emphasizes the importance of communication, understanding personal needs, and fostering intimacy while managing ADHD. Additionally, the podcast highlights resources and available through ADHD reWired’s coaching programs and virtual community. Navigating ADHD and Intimacy: Conversations with Neurodivergent Coach Vida Carey In episode 539 of ADHD reWired, host Eric Tivers welcomes Vida Carey, a neurodivergent coach specializing in sex and relationships, who emphasizes comfort through humor and candid vulnerability. The discussion delves into the unique challenges of navigating sexual intimacy for those with ADHD, including overcoming societal norms, advocating for oneself, and understanding hyper- and hyposexuality. Vida shares her insights on redefining sex, utilizing intimacy menus, and having open conversations about one's desires. Additionally, the episode addresses the importance of developing healthy communication practices in relationships and offers a humorous yet candid look into making sex a more comfortable topic for neurodivergent individuals. The episode closes with reflections on how neurodivergent couples can better understand and each other's needs. 00:00 Introduction to ADHD reWired 01:08 Meet Coach Vida Carey 02:36 Navigating Sex and Relationships 05:13 Understanding Kink and Communication 07:31 Advocating for Yourself in the Bedroom 10:16 Exploring Sexual Desires and Intimacy 18:33 Sex Rewards and Intimacy Menus 22:33 ADHD reWired Coaching Groups 28:38 Hyper and Hyposexuality in Neurodivergent Brains 30:44 The Reality of Life and Sex 31:48 Hypersexuality vs. Sexual Addiction 32:49 Exploring Relationship Structures 36:32 Navigating Intimacy and Communication 38:27 The Journey to Intimacy Coaching 41:41 Common Questions About Sex 47:51 The Importance of Communication in Sex 56:01 Final Thoughts and Resources

Episode 538 of the ADHD reWired podcast, hosted by Eric Tivers, addresses the complexities and intersections of neurodivergence (ADHD and autism) and LGBTQ identities. The episode features a discussion from a NeuroDivergent Pride event, co-hosted by Chris Wang from Shimmer. The includes Eric, Nate, and Vida, who share their personal journeys of coming out as queer and neurodivergent. They discuss the challenges of navigating societal expectations, masking, and the importance of ive communities. The episode also emphasizes the impact of visibility and advocacy in both the ADHD and LGBTQ communities, encouraging listeners to ive spaces and take steps to be proud of their identities. 03:24 NeuroDivergent Pride Introduction 09:14 ists Share Their Stories 22:34 Exploring Neurodivergent and Queer Identities 31:55 Impact of Heteronormative and Neurotypical Expectations 38:04 High-Level Masking and Personal Experiences 38:50 Coming Out and Family Reactions 40:40 Navigating Identity and Cultural Expectations  43:37 Unmasking and Embracing Neurodivergence 46:06 Challenges of Masking and Survival Strategies 53:30 The Continuous Process of Coming Out 01:04:12 Getting Involved in Neurodivergent and LGBTQ Communities 01:13:29 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

📣Registration is OPEN for our Summer Coaching and ability Groups - Learn more at  🏳️‍🌈Free Neurodivergent Pride Month is this Thursday at 1:30 PM PT / 4:30 PM ET - at   This week we focused on the importance of planning for the future and prioritizing meaningful activities, with what Eric likes to think of as "Big Heart Week." The coaches emphasized the need to direct energy towards activities that provide a sense of purpose and emotional fulfillment and shared their personal experiences with setting and achieving goals. The discussion also revolved around creating and reviewing bucket lists as a way to connect with one's inner desires and plan for meaningful experiences. Prioritizing Meaningful ActivitiesIn the latest episode of the Adhd Rewired podcast, Eric, Coach Kristen, and Coach Brian discussed the importance of planning for the future and prioritizing meaningful activities. The theme of the week was "Big Heart Week," focusing on issues that might be difficult to confront. Brian emphasized the significance of directing energy towards activities that provide a sense of purpose and emotional fulfillment rather than just productivity. Eric concurred, stressing the need to recognize the unpredictability of life and carve out time for activities that matter. The coaches shared their experiences of helping clients approach these topics and encouraged listeners to reflect on their own priorities. Discussing Personal Bucket Lists and Goals Eric encouraged to plan for their long-term goals and dreams, and initiated a discussion about personal bucket lists. Coach shared that she has noticed a pattern among where practical considerations, such as creating a will or planning for children, often come up when making bucket lists. This realization has led to more intentional goal-setting and planning. The group also recognized the value of sharing and knowing each other's dreams and aspirations.   Shared Projects, Accomplishments, and Motivation An anecdote was shared about a person's enthusiasm and eagerness to move forward with a shared project. Eric then discussed the joy he found in seeing group sharing their accomplished bucket list items, finding it both entertaining and inspiring. Brian, who participated in an annual bikeathon fundraiser for the Aids Life Cycle, shared his personal experience of setting a goal to participate in the event, initially hesitant due to self-doubt, but eventually realizing his capability to achieve it. His accomplishment provided him a sense of enrichment and motivation in all areas of his life.   Creating and Celebrating Bucket-List Experiences Eric emphasized the importance of creating and reviewing a bucket list as a way to connect with one's inner desires and plan for meaningful experiences. He suggested that people should be intentional about their bucket lists, allowing themselves to enjoy the anticipation of experiences and celebrating achievements along the way. Coach Kristin added that unexpected experiences also qualify as bucket-list items and should be recognized and celebrated. The team also shared personal bucket-list items, including Eric's story of a delightful experience at a clothing-optional campsite.

Introduction to the Episode: Eric Tivers welcomes listeners back and introduces the current season (36) Main Topic: The discussion focuses on self-care and numbing behaviors. Eric emphasizes the importance of understanding the differences between intentional self-care and behaviors that serve as emotional numbing. The context is week 6 of the program where these topics are explored in detail. Intentional Self-Care vs. Numbing: The dialogue underscores the need for mindfulness in distinguishing between self-care activities that genuinely contribute to well-being and behaviors that might temporarily mask emotional distress. Impact of Self-Care: The conversation also touches on the positive impacts of being intentional about self-care practices, possibly suggesting strategies or insights into improving mental health and managing symptoms of ADHD through mindful self-care rather than numbing. These insights reflect an ongoing commitment to addressing complex emotional behaviors in the context of managing ADHD, with a focus on improving overall mental health and awareness.   *This summary was generated using Ai

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Welcome back to another episode of ADHD reWired! This episode is part of a special series we're calling the Coaches Roundtable, where ADHD reWired Coaches Brian Entler and Kristin Marts me to discuss what's happening in our coaching and ability groups each week. This week we're diving into the content from the 4th week of our coaching and ability groups. This week, we're discussing importance of building strong foundations around habits and routines as an essential precursor to more effective daily and weekly planning.  Come us for our Summer Coaching and ability Groups. Take advantage of Early Bird Pricing by ing before May 27th. Learn more at Key Topics Discussed: Introduction: Eric Tivers welcomes listeners and introduces the special series focusing on the content from the 4th week of the coaching and ability groups. Foundational Strategies: Eric, Kristin, and Brian discuss the importance of establishing routines as a strong foundations for managing ADHD. They share personal experiences and professional insights on creating routines and habits that productivity and well-being. Tracking Progress: The conversation shifts to the significance of tracking progress. Eric explains how tracking can provide valuable insights and help in adjusting strategies for better outcomes. Kristin and Brian share their favorite tools and techniques for effective tracking. Sleep Management: Brian discusses the critical role of sleep management and shares tips on establishing a nighttime routine. The importance of consistent sleep patterns and how they can impact ADHD symptoms is highlighted. Engaging in Routines: Kristin shares her group's experiences with engaging in morning routines and how small adjustments can lead to significant improvements in managing ADHD symptoms. Personal Stories: Eric, Kristin, and Brian share personal anecdotes about their own routines, sleep management, and tracking progress, providing relatable and practical advice for listeners. Closing Remarks: Eric wraps up the episode with key takeaways and encourages listeners to implement the discussed strategies in their daily lives.  

Episode Overview: Welcome back to Week 3 of the ADHD reWired Coaches Round Table! This episode dives into the intricacies of to-do lists and how to adapt them for ADHD brains. Eric, Kristen, and Brian explore how traditional productivity tools often fall short for neurodiverse individuals and share strategies to make them more effective. We're kicking off early bird registraton this week for our summer coaching groups. Take Advantage of our Early Bird Special - for only $999. Offer ends May 27, 2024. Learn more at Key Topics Discussed: Emotional Connections to ADHD and Productivity: Recap of last week's discussion on writing letters to ADHD. Importance of addressing emotional issues to enhance planning and productivity. Reimagining To-Do Lists for ADHD: Brian explains the common struggle with to-do lists designed for neurotypical people and the need to tailor these tools for ADHD brains. Exploration of different approaches to using to-do lists effectively, including bringing real-life data into coaching sessions. Common Pitfalls and Solutions: Challenges with traditional to-do list items like vague entries (e.g., "doctor") and how they create confusion and resistance. Introduction of "vision verbs" to provide clear, actionable steps. Importance of specificity and context in to-do list items to reduce the mental energy required to activate tasks. Personal Experiences and Group Insights: Kristen shares her group's emotional and vulnerable discussions about old to-do list items and the associated shame. The benefits of having ability teams and how they integrate with to-do lists. Scaffolding and the 'Why': Eric introduces the concept of including the "why" in to-do list items to connect emotional importance with tasks, boosting motivation and activation. Examples of how understanding the "why" can make it easier to tackle tasks, such as scheduling a vet appointment for a beloved pet. Practical Tips and Next Steps: Encouragement to experiment with new strategies and understand the trade-offs in time and executive function. Teaser for next week's topic on daily and weekly planning, routines, and managing transition times between tasks. Quotes: "Think about how long we sort of wrestle with things that are just sticking around on our to-do list, or even worse, start working on a task we've already done." - Eric Tivers "Tasks often create tasks. It's just called adulting." - Eric Tivers "You can spend time on the front end or the back end, but one of them makes you feel bad." - Kristin Marts Final Thoughts: The episode concludes with a reflection on the importance of re-engineering productivity tools to suit ADHD brains, addressing both the emotional and practical aspects of task management. Stay tuned for next week's discussion on establishing effective routines and planning strategies. Hosts: Eric Tivers Kristin Marts Brian E us next week as we delve into the foundations of daily and weekly planning to enhance productivity and reduce the stress of managing tasks. *This summary was generated using Ai.*

Description: In this episode of the Coaches Roundtable, hosted by Eric Tivers, the team gathers to reflect on the progress and insights from Week 2 of their , where we explore the relationship that we have with our ADHD.  Listen in to the end to find out which coach says "F*uck You" to their ADHD and why.  ADHD Letter Writing Exercise Discussion Eric initiated a discussion about the personal relationship with ADHD and the exercise of writing letters to ADHD. Kristin shared her experiences, emphasizing the therapeutic effects of externalizing her ADHD through writing, and how it helped her come to with her condition. Brian, on the other hand, initially found the exercise strange but later appreciated its value in processing and communicating with ADHD. Both Kristin and Brian agreed on the idea that this exercise has helped them build a deeper understanding and develop a more authentic relationship with their ADHD.   Exercise for Enhancing Intimacy Awareness Brian shared his initial struggles with a particular exercise but emphasized its ultimate value in helping him become more aware of his vulnerabilities and issues with intimacy. Eric highlighted the power of the exercise in creating a sense of connection and normalizing experiences. A question arose about whether participants should be informed about the exercise's content in advance, with Kristin clarifying that such information could potentially alter the performance and resistance of participants.   Personal Letter Sharing and Community Trust Eric and Kristin discussed the shift in approach towards sharing personal letters within their community. Eric expressed that he no longer insists on sharing, but encourages those who wish to do so, while Kristin emphasized the importance of respecting individual privacy and the value of vulnerability within their sharing process. They also noted that they revisit this exercise throughout the community's engagement, observing that participants continue to share and show trust in others' privacy.   ADHD Experiences and Perceptions Discussion Kristin, Eric, and Brian discussed their experiences with ADHD and the impact it has on their lives. They talked about the tendency to view the current moment as a representation of the entire journey, and how this can lead to inaccurate perceptions. They emphasized the importance of acknowledging both the positive and negative aspects of their ADHD, and how this can help them stay motivated to use their tools and strategies. Eric shared his recent experience of writing a letter to his ADHD, expressing both gratitude and frustration towards it. The conversation also touched on some ongoing challenges in Eric's business.   Eric Addresses Financial Struggles and Adhd Eric expressed his frustrations regarding the recent financial struggles of the business and the perceived lack of attention to financial health. He also acknowledged the emotional toll the challenges have taken and thanked the team for their . Eric emphasized the importance of addressing the emotional issues related to having Adhd and how it impacts productivity and time management. Kristin and Brian appreciated Eric's candor and reflection. Eric ended the conversation by looking forward to the next roundtable discussion on planning and to-do lists.   *This summary was generated by Zoom Ai.